"I Love You...What's Your Name?"

"One night I was putting him to bed and he said, I hope you're getting a lot less nookie that I am getting . It was priceless! And a few months ago, he was peeing on the rug right there in front of me and I was angry. I mean, there are times when it doesn't bother me if he's peeing on the rug and there are times when it makes me crazy. So I was on the floor cleaning it up and he was standing right there. And I was mad and I said (exasperated) do you ever have compassion for me! And he said, I do. Briefly and in small amounts . Of course that just broke the tension. So those kinds of things happen often enough that it's a balm for me. And he's sweet and he's affectionate and he knows who I am most of the time. One of his lines was I love you, what's your name ." In the past 25 years, caregiver stress and burden has been the subject of intense focus, while the effect of the experience of one's sense of self has received minimal attention. This book explores and describes how women create meaning in the caregiving role, how caregiving is integrated into a person's sense of self and the consequences of a caregiver's self-perception when it falls short of their ideal self.

Autorentext

Carolyn M. Nelham, PhD, is a psychologist specializing in both
counseling and clinical neuropsychology in private practice. She
lectures in the Department of Education at McGill University
since 2005.

Klappentext

"One night I was putting him to bed and he said, "Ihope you're getting a lot less nookie that I amgetting". It was priceless! And a few months ago, hewas peeing on the rug right there in front of me andI was angry. I mean, there are times when it doesn'tbother me if he's peeing on the rug and there aretimes when it makes me crazy. So I was on the floorcleaning it up and he was standing right there. And Iwas mad and I said (exasperated) "do you ever havecompassion for me!" And he said, "I do. Briefly andin small amounts". Of course that just broke thetension. So those kinds of things happen often enoughthat it's a balm for me. And he's sweet and he'saffectionate and he knows who I am most of the time.One of his lines was "I love you, what's your name"."In the past 25 years, caregiver stress and burden hasbeen the subject of intense focus, while the effectof the experience of one's sense of self has receivedminimal attention.This book explores and describes how women createmeaning in the caregiving role, how caregiving isintegrated into a person's sense of self and theconsequences of a caregiver's self-perception when itfalls short of their ideal self.